18: Understanding Sexuality Video
Transcript:
Chapter 18 Video
RESPONSE: No.
RESPONSE: No.
RESPONSE: No.
RESPONSE: No.
RESPONSE: No.
NARRATOR (voice over): It’s not always easy to say no. Especially to the people you want to like you. The people you care about, who say they care about you. This is especially true when it comes to sexual activity.
RESPONSE: Mostly it comes from the people around you trying to get you to do stuff. Teasing you if you haven’t. People will send you sexts and even expect you to sext them back. Then they get mad and blow you off if you won’t. Or talk about you behind your back.
RESPONSE: Honestly I think movies and TV shows and just the stuff you see all around you makes you think that sex is all that matters.
RESPONSE: Sometimes I think it’s kind of a guilt trip. Like, “you don’t love me or you’d do this.” Or “we’ve been going out for a while now, so it’s expected.” And you feel like if you don’t do what they want, then the relationship’s over.
RESPONSE: I guess if I was feeling pressured to do something I didn’t want to do, I would have to stop and take a look at the other person and our relationship and decide if he really cares about me or is only interested in what he wants.
RESPONSE: Just talk about it with the other person. Try to explain why I don’t want to do whatever they’re asking. Try to get them to understand. You have to have boundaries and make it clear what you’re comfortable with.
RESPONSE: If it’s, like, someone sending you pictures or asking you to send them pictures or sext with them and you don’t want to or it makes you uncomfortable, then block them.
RESPONSE: I just say no. Period. It’s my body, my choice.
NARRATOR: It may not always be easy to say, but if it’s how you feel, you have to say it.
RESPONSE: I don’t want to.
RESPONSE: I’m not comfortable with that.
RESPONSE: I’m not ready yet.
RESPONSE: It’s not worth it.
RESPONSE: And if you don’t respect that, I can find somebody who will.
RESPONSE: My body.
RESPONSE: My choice.